A pessimistic story is one you tell yourself trying to avoid something. You might tell yourself that if you take no risks, you won’t feel disappointed. Maybe you tell yourself that taking time away from the office to exercise and take care of your health, or take time away to attend a concert with your partner, or watch a sports event to see your child play, you risk losing your job.
Here’s the thing. Each of us has more than one story we use to justify and excuse ourself, our actions and reactions to life. There are a few for most people, areas that we tell ourself a story about us, about life and about what we expect from ourself, from others and from life. Here is a list of the basic areas you and I tell ourself a story:
- Work / Job / Career / Business
- Family Relationships
- Personal Health, Fitness and Self Care
- Our Happiness, Fulfillment, Joy and Satisfaction
- Our Friends and How we Relate to Them
- Our Purpose and Mission in Life
Many people justify handling some parts of their life poorly by telling one story, perhaps in their work and another story about, perhaps, their family.
You might say, for example, “My family knows that everything I do is for them. They don’t mind it when I spend extra hours at the office because they know I do it to provide for their needs.”
Meanwhile, the family is dying for your time.
We sometimes assume one thing, in this example, our family understands. But the assumptions we tell in our story very often do not reflect reality.
The family is dying for a connection with you.
Relationship and Connection requires time. If you choose to short change your family relationships (#2 in the list) because you feel compelled to work extra hours (#1 in the list), you automatically force yourself to adjust your story in those areas to accommodate your actions.
Two Amazing Things About Your Story
- It is impossible to use a pessimistic story to achieve something great.
A story, for example, that more hours at work will save you from losing your job might or might not reflect reality. It is a fact that ignoring the other areas, such as family relationships, personal health and fitness, happiness, fulfillment, joy and satisfaction and the other stories of your life will directly impact your ability to perform well on the job you claim to be trying to keep. When the other areas suffer, no work story can ever make up the difference.
- You can’t have a great story unless you get your purpose right.
Each area of your life must have a compelling purpose so that you can accomplish what you were created to do in and with your life. Your ultimate purpose is never small. When your purpose is poorly defined, your life bounces along the sea of life like a sailboat on a stormy ocean without a rudder, or with a broken mast. The direction of our life is always better when we have a clear purpose defining our story.
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